This is Day 10 of a 31-Day Series called Bear in Mind: Cubisms.
On our way home from bible study the other night, we were talking about good places to find fried chicken. I know, so random, right? Anyway, there are a couple of places with great wings in our area, including CiCi’s Pizza. CiCi’s Pizza is Cub 3’s favorite place to eat, so she made it known that she’d like to have her next birthday dinner there. Cub 4 chimed in next:
Cub 4: I don’t want to talk about birthdays! I don’t like birthdays!
Cub 2: What?! Since when? You love your birthday!
Cub 4: Shots! I don’t like birthdays in…knee…more!
Birthdays in our household mean our whole day is all about the person celebrating the birthday – whatever they want to do, whatever they want to eat, wherever they want to eat, and presents. It’s full of fun and laughs.
On the other hand, each birthday also brings another year of turning older which means another visit to the pediatrician for a yearly check-up. This year, Cub 4 had to have a few shots required for school. She also had her list of allergies updated which required a back full of shots, in addition to having her blood drawn. So, she has now connected her birthday (an abundance of positive things) with shots (one negative thing), and the one negative thing has seemed to have taken over the abundance of positive things.
I have about three months left to turn Cub 4’s negative view of her birthday into a positive, memorable experience. In teaching, we were always told to “think aloud” when reading or working through a math problem to demonstrate to students how to think through a word problem or to help comprehend a story that they had read. I will be looking for opportunities to “think aloud” around my baby cub to focus more on the positive aspects of situations rather than the negative.
I’ve been in Cub 4’s shoes before; focusing more on the negative than the positive. Focusing on the positive takes practice. It’s a choice. It’s a different mindset. It’s being able to squeeze some good out of any difficult situation, disagreement, or predicament. It is possible to began to see the positive in everything and everyone with a little practice and dependence on God.
“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” Philippians 4:8 NLT