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Not My Choice

This is Day 19 of a 31-Day Series called Bear in Mind: Cubisms.

We have a little over a month before our evenings will be crazy busy!  I just finished signing up Cubs 2 and 3 for Upward Basketball.  We love the Upward program!  Our boy cubs have participated in Upward Basketball over the years, but this will be the first year that Cub 3 will participate.


Cub 4 will be participating in Upward Cheerleading.  In the past, we have only allowed two cubs to participate in a sport in one season, however since they will all be a part of the same sport at the same church, we are crossing our fingers that we won’t be totally exhausted by the end of the season.

Cub 4 has been taking dance lessons this fall and we expected her to want to continue with dance in the spring.  When the choice to try cheerleading was offered, she first asked if there were going to be any mascots involved (she’s terrified of them), then she said she’d like to try it.  We were sort of caught off guard because we couldn’t believe that she was going to give up dancing in the spring to do cheerleading.  My first instinct was to ignore her request and to sign her up for dance again.  A week later, I asked about it again, and she still wanted to do cheerleading instead.  We’ve never had one cub participate in two different activities during the same season. If Cub 4 was to cheer, dance classes would not happen again until next fall.



I have to admit, I was a little bummed that she didn’t want to continue with her dance classes. She LOVES to dance!  A few days ago, I was in an auto shop waiting for Tank (our name for our truck).  I was listening to two fathers talking about their kids and sports.  One father had two college-aged children who were both playing sports still.  The other father was just beginning the sports playing world with two elementary aged children.  When the experienced father was asked for his best advice for this new father he simply said to make sure the kids wanted to play.  Make sure that they were playing because they wanted to and not because they were good at the sport.  I was glad to be there to hear that conversation.

It’s not about Cub 4 being a good dancer, and it’s not about what I think she should do.  Therefore, I’ve signed Cub 4 up for cheerleading because it’s what she wants to do.

Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.  Proverbs 19:21 ESV

Momma Bear


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