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The Littles First Rule

This is Day 29 of a 31-Day Series called Bear in Mind: Cubisms.

If I actually took the time to write down the rules and procedures for our Party of Six, it would be an extensive list. I don’t even remember everything that we’ve said over the years (none of us remember them all).  One rule comes up continuously, though, because we are always running out of stuff.  The youngest cub gets first dibs on anything that is running out in the house related to food and drink.  Here’s an example:  On a morning that the milk is surely going to run out, it never fails that all four cubs decide that they want to eat cereal for breakfast.  Cubs 4 and 3 would get to have milk in their cereal, and if there was any left after them, Cub 2 could have what was left.  Cub 1 would have to either eat dry cereal, or come up with something else to eat for breakfast. On this particular morning, Cubs 3 and 4 asked for cereal.  Cub 4 said that she didn’t want any milk in her cereal (she doesn’t like mushy Frosted Flakes).  Since Cub 2 heard Cub 4 say that she wasn’t going to put milk in her cereal, he used the last of the milk for his bowl of cereal.  After Cub 4 finished eating her cereal, she asked for a cup of milk to drink.  Well, there was no more milk because Cub 2 used it in his cereal!  Cub 4 was UPSET!  She recited the rule towards Cub 2, poked out her lips, and folded her arms.  She unquestionably thought Cub 2 was wrong for drinking the rest of the milk.

Two sides to the same story.  Two different perspectives.  Both sides could support their actions.  Cub 4 did say that she didn’t want any milk in her cereal.  Cub 2 did make sure that Cubs 3 and 4 had their breakfast choices before deciding on his.  Cub 4 could’ve said, “I don’t want milk in my bowl, but I do want milk in a cup.”  Cub 2 could’ve asked, “Cub 4, do you want any milk?  This is the last of it.”  Something different could have been done by both parties involved, but it happened the way it happened.

In adult situations, sometimes we forget that both parties can be right.  How boring this world would be if everyone agreed with everyone.  Often, we need to be reminded that our opinions are just that – ours.  If you’re concerned with trying to get others to have the same opinion as yours, you are going to stress yourself out.  Chill!  Cub 4 drank a cup of water instead, and the world kept turning.

So let’s agree to use all our energy in getting along with each other. Help others with encouraging words; don’t drag them down by finding fault. You’re certainly not going to permit an argument over what is served or not served at supper to wreck God’s work among you, are you? I said it before and I’ll say it again: All food is good, but it can turn bad if you use it badly, if you use it to trip others up and send them sprawling. When you sit down to a meal, your primary concern should not be to feed your own face but to share the life of Jesus. So be sensitive and courteous to the others who are eating. Don’t eat or say or do things that might interfere with the free exchange of love.” Romans 14:19-21 MSG

Momma Bear


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