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You’re Such a Nag!

Cub 1 came upstairs this afternoon (morning for him) to get some breakfast.  This was his opening conversation:

Last night, I decided to look up the life expectancy of a bird.  Did you know that the smaller the bird, the shorter life expectancy they have?!  I mean, some birds only live about two years before they die!  It just reminded me of how blessed I am, you know?  {looking out with window} I mean, there are little birds flying around outside right now that aren’t gonna live to see 2022!

Mind blown, right? 🤯 This is an example of what being at home 24/7 with little contact with the outside world will do to you.

My real reason for writing today was to share our own little parable of the persistent widow (see Luke 18:1-8) except, we’ll call ours the Parable of Some Nagging Cubs.

For the longest time, Cub 2, Cub 3, and Cub 4 have been begging for things that we’ve said no to a million times.  Yet, they just keep asking!  It was our first weekend of #coronacation and since they had nothing but time, they decided to work together to convince us to change our no’s into yes’s.  They each put together Powerpoint presentations outlining their needs.

Cub 2 asked for a tattoo for his 16th birthday.  He promised to maintain a 3.75 GPA, to get the tattoo on a part of his body that would be covered up by a shirt, and the design would be something religious.


Cub 3 asked to get her hair dyed a different color.  In return, she promised to make a coupon book for us filled with things that she would do for us “free of charge”.

Cub 4 asked for a pet hamster.  She promised to take care of it herself and to pay for it herself and her best argument was that she was the only cub who hadn’t had a pet of her own.

We were impressed.  They did a wonderful job with their presentations and we “adjusted” our consistent responses from “no” to “not yet”.  Cub 2 will be able to get a tattoo when he turns 18 years old IF he maintains a 3.75 GPA throughout the rest of high school.  Cub 3 will be able to dye her hair when she turns 13 years old.  Cub 4 will be able to get her own hamster if she finishes her school year with all A’s and B’s.

We, the parents, felt just like the judge in Luke 18:5.  They were driving us crazy, y’all!

When was the last time you nagged your way to an answer from God?  Our continuous, consistent, continual, and constant requests – that are in line with God’s will – shows Him that we are in need of His favor.  So, it’s okay to be a nag.  He doesn’t mind and would LOVE to hear from you regularly!

Mama Bear


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We’re Growing!

It’s been a struggle waking up at a decent hour in the mornings!  I’ve spent all week trying to get to exercise classes at the gym (most start at 9:30), but I’ve been enjoying not having an alarm clock and I keep waking up WAY later than I should and I keep missing class.  I’ve been going to the gym, still, but it’s been closer to lunch time.

This morning when I returned from the gym, I found Poppa Bear (PB) standing outside talking to some people in a car that was blocking me from pulling into the driveway.  The car belonged to the parents of one of Cub 2’s friends who were just looking for our house apparently (?).  Cub 2’s friend was one of the students who went on a week long service project trip to the Dominican Republic with Cub 2 a couple of weeks ago.  Cub 2, the mama’s boy cub, took his first airplane ride, first trip out of the country, first time ever being away from family for eight days, and grew more independent just like that!  Since returning from the trip, his little cohort of friends have been meeting up at different places to hang out.  Today’s hangout was at the mall.  They were meeting there to catch a movie and eat.  The girl cubs and I headed out to the beach for the afternoon, and PB agreed to drop Cub 2 off at the mall.

Cub 2 and Friends
Cubs 3 and 4 Playing on the Bay

Did you catch that?  Cub 2 was dropped off at the mall to hang out with friends without us.  Me – the worrier – didn’t flip out over Cub 2 being dropped off at the mall to hangout with friends.  Anyone who knows me knows that this was a big deal, but I didn’t even realize that it was a big deal until later this evening.  Listen, I cannot ignore the fact that we are raising two African-American male cubs.  They have labels placed on them without even opening their mouths.  They get judged just by walking in a room.  They could meet up with the wrong police officer one day and not have the chance to pull out their identification.  So, I do not apologize for the worry.  However, what I’ve learned to do is trust God more than worry.

After surviving Cub 2’s eight-day journey to another country by himself, letting him spend a few hours at the mall with his friends is now a piece of cake.  That’s because I spent time growing up, too.  I spent time growing my trust in God.  I started every single morning in the month of June by writing down scripture passages that dealt with worry and fear.  When a worry or fear would creep in, I was equipped for battle.  #BOOM

My Cubs Are Growing Up!

What. A. Great. Feeling.

What is your thorn or sin that’s keeping you from growing up?  Perhaps it’s time to dig a little deeper and arm yourself with God’s word so that you can battle that thing.  God always wins!

The other cubs have had some growth, too, but we’ll save that for another day.  I’m determined to get up on time to catch a class at the gym.

Who am I kidding?  Tomorrow is Saturday.

Mama Bear


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Happy Last Day of 2015!

One of the things that I like about blogging with WordPress is that they always send out a report at the end of each year about your blog page.  It’s really a bunch of stats about how many people visited the page, who commented the most, and even what part of the world readers are viewing from.  My favorite part is seeing the top five most viewed blog posts of the year.  I like going back to read about what was happening in our family that triggered a new blog post.  I thought I’d share them again since so many of us are going to spend today reflecting on this past year.  So, here’s the top five most viewed posts from 2015.  Just click on the title to read it again, or trust that my short summary tells it all! 🙂

#5 – Walking Miracles – This was written shortly after our first real allergy scare with Cub 4.  It’s a reminder that we are wonderfully made by our Creator.

#4 – It’s The Little Things – This was part of my Bear in Mind: Cubisms series.  I shared about the little things we do that we may think go unnoticed may not be the case at all.

#3 – Forgiveness: Difficult, but Necessary – Last January we had a little surprise snow fall that caught everyone off guard including our school system officials.  I talked about the importance of apologizing, yet the question of whether or not an apology is necessary in order to forgive someone still needs some research.

#2 – Who’s The Boss? – This post was all about our dear Cub 3 and discipline.  As parents, we have to stick with it!  If you take yourself seriously, they will comply.

#1 – Great Might Be Greater – This post was centered around Cub 2’s audition and interview day last January.  He wanted to go to the Performing and Visual Arts magnet school program at the time and was very nervous about the outcome.

Thank you all SO much for always stopping by and reading about what’s going on in our Party of Six.  I am excited about the possibilities to come in 2016!!  God’s plans are always the best plans!

Momma Bear