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We’re Growing!

It’s been a struggle waking up at a decent hour in the mornings!  I’ve spent all week trying to get to exercise classes at the gym (most start at 9:30), but I’ve been enjoying not having an alarm clock and I keep waking up WAY later than I should and I keep missing class.  I’ve been going to the gym, still, but it’s been closer to lunch time.

This morning when I returned from the gym, I found Poppa Bear (PB) standing outside talking to some people in a car that was blocking me from pulling into the driveway.  The car belonged to the parents of one of Cub 2’s friends who were just looking for our house apparently (?).  Cub 2’s friend was one of the students who went on a week long service project trip to the Dominican Republic with Cub 2 a couple of weeks ago.  Cub 2, the mama’s boy cub, took his first airplane ride, first trip out of the country, first time ever being away from family for eight days, and grew more independent just like that!  Since returning from the trip, his little cohort of friends have been meeting up at different places to hang out.  Today’s hangout was at the mall.  They were meeting there to catch a movie and eat.  The girl cubs and I headed out to the beach for the afternoon, and PB agreed to drop Cub 2 off at the mall.

Cub 2 and Friends
Cubs 3 and 4 Playing on the Bay

Did you catch that?  Cub 2 was dropped off at the mall to hang out with friends without us.  Me – the worrier – didn’t flip out over Cub 2 being dropped off at the mall to hangout with friends.  Anyone who knows me knows that this was a big deal, but I didn’t even realize that it was a big deal until later this evening.  Listen, I cannot ignore the fact that we are raising two African-American male cubs.  They have labels placed on them without even opening their mouths.  They get judged just by walking in a room.  They could meet up with the wrong police officer one day and not have the chance to pull out their identification.  So, I do not apologize for the worry.  However, what I’ve learned to do is trust God more than worry.

After surviving Cub 2’s eight-day journey to another country by himself, letting him spend a few hours at the mall with his friends is now a piece of cake.  That’s because I spent time growing up, too.  I spent time growing my trust in God.  I started every single morning in the month of June by writing down scripture passages that dealt with worry and fear.  When a worry or fear would creep in, I was equipped for battle.  #BOOM

My Cubs Are Growing Up!

What. A. Great. Feeling.

What is your thorn or sin that’s keeping you from growing up?  Perhaps it’s time to dig a little deeper and arm yourself with God’s word so that you can battle that thing.  God always wins!

The other cubs have had some growth, too, but we’ll save that for another day.  I’m determined to get up on time to catch a class at the gym.

Who am I kidding?  Tomorrow is Saturday.

Mama Bear


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Happy Last Day of 2015!

One of the things that I like about blogging with WordPress is that they always send out a report at the end of each year about your blog page.  It’s really a bunch of stats about how many people visited the page, who commented the most, and even what part of the world readers are viewing from.  My favorite part is seeing the top five most viewed blog posts of the year.  I like going back to read about what was happening in our family that triggered a new blog post.  I thought I’d share them again since so many of us are going to spend today reflecting on this past year.  So, here’s the top five most viewed posts from 2015.  Just click on the title to read it again, or trust that my short summary tells it all! 🙂

#5 – Walking Miracles – This was written shortly after our first real allergy scare with Cub 4.  It’s a reminder that we are wonderfully made by our Creator.

#4 – It’s The Little Things – This was part of my Bear in Mind: Cubisms series.  I shared about the little things we do that we may think go unnoticed may not be the case at all.

#3 – Forgiveness: Difficult, but Necessary – Last January we had a little surprise snow fall that caught everyone off guard including our school system officials.  I talked about the importance of apologizing, yet the question of whether or not an apology is necessary in order to forgive someone still needs some research.

#2 – Who’s The Boss? – This post was all about our dear Cub 3 and discipline.  As parents, we have to stick with it!  If you take yourself seriously, they will comply.

#1 – Great Might Be Greater – This post was centered around Cub 2’s audition and interview day last January.  He wanted to go to the Performing and Visual Arts magnet school program at the time and was very nervous about the outcome.

Thank you all SO much for always stopping by and reading about what’s going on in our Party of Six.  I am excited about the possibilities to come in 2016!!  God’s plans are always the best plans!

Momma Bear

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Who’s The Boss?

This is Day 14 of a 31-Day Series called Bear in Mind: Cubisms.

“You’re not the boss of me!” is a popular saying among our cubs – to each other – never to me or Poppa Bear (PB)!  That would result in a come to Jesus experience.  We almost had one today.

It’s been a rushed day.  The cubs had a two-hour early dismissal from school today and they are off tomorrow.  The cubs were looking forward to getting home because they wanted to watch television.  We no longer watch TV during the week and we no longer have cubs waking up with nightmares!  It’s a wonderful thing!  Anyway, PB and Cub 1 went out to get haircuts.  I picked up the girl cubs.  They were to clean up their room and then they were free to turn on the TV since today was the start of their weekend.  They worked and fussed and fussed and worked and just when they thought they were finished, I told them that we had to go pick up Cub 2 from his bus stop.  Cub 3 was not happy!  She was so ready to watch TV!  She pouted until we got back home.  I went upstairs to check their room and wouldn’t you know it?  They strategically pushed things that were on the floor to the sides of the room, up against the wall, and under their bed, to make the floor appear to be clean.

Books have a place.  Toys have a place.  Dirty clothes have a place. Once they’re all in their right places, the room looks neat and clean. This time, I stood in the doorway and supervised.  Oh, but my dear Cub 3 decided that she just wanted to sit and sulk on the bedroom floor instead of following my directions and cleaning.  Have you noticed that many of my cubisms have involved Cub 3?  Due to her noncompliance, she had to wait 30 minutes after cleaning the room before she could watch TV.  She reluctantly finished cleaning the room and then she cried herself to sleep!

By the  way, I think crying yourself to sleep is the best sleep in the world!

As parents, you can expect that your cubs will see just how far they can push you.  They want to see just how serious we are about the consequences we set when our directions aren’t followed or when rules are broken.  Let me encourage you to stick with it!  They’ll take you seriously, if you take you seriously.  I like to think that I am preparing my little cub for that future supervisor she won’t like, but will still have to respect.  However, knowing Cub 3…she will be her own boss!

Children, obey your parents because you are Christians. This is the right thing to do. Ephesians 6:1

Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Momma Bear