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You’re Such a Nag!

Cub 1 came upstairs this afternoon (morning for him) to get some breakfast.  This was his opening conversation:

Last night, I decided to look up the life expectancy of a bird.  Did you know that the smaller the bird, the shorter life expectancy they have?!  I mean, some birds only live about two years before they die!  It just reminded me of how blessed I am, you know?  {looking out with window} I mean, there are little birds flying around outside right now that aren’t gonna live to see 2022!

Mind blown, right? 🤯 This is an example of what being at home 24/7 with little contact with the outside world will do to you.

My real reason for writing today was to share our own little parable of the persistent widow (see Luke 18:1-8) except, we’ll call ours the Parable of Some Nagging Cubs.

For the longest time, Cub 2, Cub 3, and Cub 4 have been begging for things that we’ve said no to a million times.  Yet, they just keep asking!  It was our first weekend of #coronacation and since they had nothing but time, they decided to work together to convince us to change our no’s into yes’s.  They each put together Powerpoint presentations outlining their needs.

Cub 2 asked for a tattoo for his 16th birthday.  He promised to maintain a 3.75 GPA, to get the tattoo on a part of his body that would be covered up by a shirt, and the design would be something religious.


Cub 3 asked to get her hair dyed a different color.  In return, she promised to make a coupon book for us filled with things that she would do for us “free of charge”.

Cub 4 asked for a pet hamster.  She promised to take care of it herself and to pay for it herself and her best argument was that she was the only cub who hadn’t had a pet of her own.

We were impressed.  They did a wonderful job with their presentations and we “adjusted” our consistent responses from “no” to “not yet”.  Cub 2 will be able to get a tattoo when he turns 18 years old IF he maintains a 3.75 GPA throughout the rest of high school.  Cub 3 will be able to dye her hair when she turns 13 years old.  Cub 4 will be able to get her own hamster if she finishes her school year with all A’s and B’s.

We, the parents, felt just like the judge in Luke 18:5.  They were driving us crazy, y’all!

When was the last time you nagged your way to an answer from God?  Our continuous, consistent, continual, and constant requests – that are in line with God’s will – shows Him that we are in need of His favor.  So, it’s okay to be a nag.  He doesn’t mind and would LOVE to hear from you regularly!

Mama Bear


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Someone I Can Identify With 

Today is Sunday?! Wow, it doesn’t feel like a Sunday!

Cub 3 made this statement earlier this week, and the truth is, our Sundays haven’t really felt like our normal Sundays since Poppa Bear’s (PB) sabbatical began at the beginning of this month. We haven’t seen our church family in about three weeks, but it feels like three YEARS!!

The summer months do cause us to lose sight of what day of the week it is at times. Most of this sabbatical feels like any other summer except that PB gets to participate in all of our summer activities without having to work around his church schedule.

Like most families, we take more trips during the summer than any other time of year. When I know that we’ll be around a big crowd of people, I make sure to dress the girl cubs alike. It’s easier to pick them out in a crowd and if they were to get lost, I would be able to describe them easier (yes, that’s how the worrier’s brain works). I used to do the same with Cubs 1 and 2 until they no longer wanted to dress alike. So, Cubs 3 and 4 have many matching outfits just because of summer outings that help me to identify them as my girl cubs.

So, I’ve been thinking about this identity thing. Our identity is everything, right? We can be identified in SO many different ways – some good, some bad. I can be identified as a woman or an African American or a mama bear or a preacher’s wife or as being short or a friend, an aunt, or a sister. However THE most important one is a child of God. 

Being a part of God’s family comes with many perks because identifying with Jesus means that I am all that and a bag of salt n’ vinegar potato chips to him!! My cubs may have features and behaviors that identify them as our cubs, however our love for them doesn’t even come close to how much they are loved by our Creator as a part of his family.

He loves us…ALL of us so much!  Don’t pay any attention to the negative identities that the enemy wants us to focus on.  We are God’s children and that means…

…we are a part of God’s family; an heir.  Romans 8:16

…we are God’s masterpiece. Ephesians 2:10

…we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14

…we were set apart before we were born. Jeremiah 1:5. 

…we’ve been called out of darkness (those negative identities) into His marvelous light. 1Peter 2:9

…we are forgiven. Ephesians 1:7

I love being identified with Him!

Mama Bear

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Wide Awake!

I knew better than to drink McDonald’s sweet sugary tea well past 2:00pm!  It’s 1:30am and I’m wide awake.  Let’s hope that writing this post brings about some zzz’s or Poppa Bear (PB) just might discover me nodding off in church later this morning! 

My cubs start school this week.  Cubs 3 and 4 return to school on Monday, and Cubs 1 and 2 return to school on Tuesday.  This is the first time EVER that we couldn’t participate in any Meet & Greet events since we have been out of town so much over the past month. We don’t know which teachers the girl cubs will have this year, so Monday morning is even more exciting!  I did manage to purchase school supplies that are all still sitting in bags on the dining room table and floor.  We’ll be hosting a labeling party in the dining room, if you’re interested in coming over later.  It’s no fun feeling like you’re behind before you even get started, you know?

Speaking of being behind brings me to another thought – we did absolutely nothing academic this summer to prepare for the upcoming school year.  I haven’t even had time to care about that.  Can they really fall behind that much in a couple of months?  I think not…I hope not.  We ALL needed a break!

Speaking of breaks brings me to another thought – I just remembered that we were supposed to wrap Cub 3’s broken ring finger and pinky together for two weeks and we never did! We would manage to do 2-3 days and then forget! Ha! I hope she doesn’t end up with a permanently crooked finger that somehow affects her dream of becoming a WNBA basketball player.

Speaking of dreams brings me to another thought – I should really wrap this up and try to make myself go to sleep.  Alright, right after sharing some random pictures from my photo library:

The cubs had a water balloon fight on Cub 3’s birthday.  Cub 2 had no pity on Cub 4!

We get lots of comments about how well-behaved our cubs are in church.  Well, now I have proof that that’s not always the case!

Back to school means back to Friday family movie nights! 

You might be wondering why I have a picture of our church in my photo library.  Well…I just LOVE our church family! 

Okay, one more and I’m going to sleep for real:

Yep, I’m going to work off all of this summer weight gain starting this week!  

I’m done! Good night (or morning)!

Momma Bear